How many of you find yourself dating somebody or bringing somebody into your life that has to be around your children? They're not step-parents. They're not a step-parent until they legally get married to you and they legally become part of the family.
She's smart, strong, and beautiful, but also a bit of a mystery. How can you make this relationship work? And how do you let her know that you're not just playing games—without getting overly involved too soon?
There are approximately 10 million single moms in the United Stateswhich means that the odds are pretty good that at least some of them are looking for love. Not all of them, of course, but the ones who are often have some hard and fast rules for dating that are a little different than from before they had kids. And they have to be!
My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot lately. And my kid is definitely awesome. Through this exercise, I put together a few guidelines for dating a single mom.
Here's the truth: dating while divorcing with young kids is complicated. It's complicated, and messy, and full of panicky meltdowns where you turn the manual sideways and wonder if you're actually doing it all wrong. But surprisingly, despite the enormous amount of people in this position, my recent Google searches on dating with kids post-divorce have turned up next to nothing on the subject.
It's inevitable, folks—us single mamas are going to start dating again. This time, let's go in with some sage advice from other single parents who've dated with success. Parenting is challenging enough.
When she and I met, we hit it off immediately. I love kids but the thought of raising my own one day is a huge anxiety trigger for me. Normally, I avoid situations where I might have to think about being a dad. Alexis was cool, I guess, but little Jaylen was really where it was for me.
I am in my early twenties. I am single and I have one child under age 5. I hate the stereotype that comes along with it.
Sometimes you meet someone and can just tell right away that they're going to absolutely turn your world upside down and inside out Eric was everything I wanted and more: handsome, intelligent, funny, and passionate. But like everything that seems too good to be true, he came with a big catch: His ex-girlfriend had just had their baby a few months before he and I met.